Pregnant women don’t realize just how good they have it!
Pregnant women don’t have to change diapers. They don’t have to deal with a hungry screaming baby; carrying heavy gear in and out of stores {just that heavy belly!} the list could go on. I personally think that’s the easiest having a child will be. You always know where they are and who’s taking care of them. It’s great!
However they eventually come out and they become little people of their own. As they grown and develop so do their motor skills, vocabulary, ahh yes and we must not forget their will power! Oh the will of a toddler 🙂 To be very honest and transparent with you the last 2-3 days have been… brain rattling for me! Between a strong willed 23 month old and a teething 8 month old it can be very frustrating to say the least.
I can’t take it anymore!
As I was about to break down in tears while pulling my hair out and sweating profusely I thought to myself does this ever get easier? It has to right?! Eventually they won’t need me to change their diapers or accidents in their Elmo undies? They’ll get all their teeth someday and stop crying… okay screaming? How about this, will they ever pay attention when I call their name? Oh man so many questions. People survive raising kids don’t they?! On that particular day it wasn’t looking good for me.
As I announced to Josh that we were giving the girls up for adoption he kindly reminded me how blessed I am to be the one to raise these girls and go through all of this with them instead of shipping them off to some teenybopper at a daycare that doesn’t know what she’s doing {which I am positive some days it would be easier to do that!}. So I stopped in the middle of my pity party and took a few deep breaths then really thought about what I was so worked up over… oh my gosh its not that bad in the grand scheme of things. Everything would have been better if I had just fixed my attitude from the start. I think thats where the root of most issues are, your attitude.
Happy Wife, Happy Life
You know the saying a happy wife, happy life. Boy is that true! Everyone would of been much happier if I were able to keep a attitude positive and be the encouraging mama/wife I am suppose to be instead of letting minute things pester me. So what if Neely does lung exercises for a few minutes while I finish taking care of Kelsey everyone will survive! Instead I should use those times to teach my kids what patients looks like, and the proper response to a sticky situation. Things will get easier so I am told and when we look back it won’t ever seem as bad as it was while we were going through it. Yeah there are going to be times when one child is screaming and the other is tugging at my shirt trying to get my attention while a buzzer is going off. OH WELL! Its times like that that make us SUPER MOM 🙂 For now I might as well enjoy the chaos and do my best to bring everyone out alive and happy!
The Modern Mama 
Thanks for the reminder! Thank you also for letting me know I am not the only one who has crazy days w/ my child (and I only have one so far! 🙂 ) I am so thankful to be able to raise Will at home and often just need my own attitude adjustment on days when all he wants to do is scream and hold onto me. 🙂
Bethany,
This is great! I so am there with you and don’t you feel so alone sometimes, like no one else knows how hard it can be? Nice to know we can relate!
I joke with Matt that I am giving the kids away…glad I am not alone in that either. I keep telling myself in the heat of the moment that it will pass and be long forgotten and it is momentary (even though it does not feel like it sometimes). I too feel so grateful to be a stay at home mom, I could never send my kids to daycare and am glad that is not something I have to do. I try to tell myself this as well!
It will get easier, I know this for a fact as Bryn is 9 (but then a whole new set of challenges pop up). I try to remember that it really does fly by. I can’t even remember some things about when Bryn was a baby…goes by too fast in the end!
Aw Bethany. I can completely relate! All the way down to the accidents in the Elmo undies. The other day I came across a blog talking about missing this time when the kids are so little. I’ve been trying to remember that even when Jack is screaming for no apparent reason while I’m trying to clean up the poopy pants of a snotty nosed toddler, I will miss these days when they need me and want me. In a heartbeat they’re going to be asking for the car keys and spending the evening out with their “cool” friends instead of at home snuggling and playing legos with their momma. Remembering that has helped me keep my attitude in check! It’s not foolproof (bc sometimes an evening away from them sounds wonderful!) but most of the time I’ll take a needy baby over saying goodbye to a college-bound teenager.
Well it is comforting to know that I am not the only one that goes crazy from time to time. I am very glad that all of you are moms that are blessed to stay at home with your babes and realize how important it is. This is encouraging to know I am not alone and that my blog relates to others too. Thank you for your comments!
Another perfectly-timed reminder!! I couldn’t agree with you more. They learn everything from us, the little sponges that they are. Let them learn from the best!! Love this post, B! Great job!