The Modern Mama

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{Ding dong} who’s there? Oh ALICE! August 31, 2010

Filed under: Moms,shopping — bethanyjcrocker @ 5:45 pm
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The modern mama outsources!

Lets face it if money were no object we would outsource many daily grind responsibilities so we could spend more time doing things we love with people we love. I for one, would outsource my dishes {I am not blessed with a dishwasher, I AM the dishwasher} and folding laundry, how annoying it that! I may be weird but I enjoy grocery shopping. Maybe because I live near an amazing Wegmans and its more of an experience then a duty, who knows. But just because I enjoy it of course doesn’t mean its convenient to do with an almost 2 year old and 8 month old. By the time I find a parking spot semi near the cart return {I am weird like that} get the girls out of car and carry one in while I am playing defense to make sure the other doesn’t get run over by a car… well you guys get the picture, its a lot of work. For some it is super stressful and not enjoyable at all. I have a solution.

Cue the light bulb and music!

That’s why there is Alice! Alice has become this Modern Mamas BFF. The great thing about Alice is money is no object. Here is the low down on Alice. Alice is an online automated marketplace where you can create a running grocery list of items like toiletries, dish soap, diapers, wipes, cleaning supplies etc. Once you create your own account you are able to choose Your Products and decide how often you need that product.
For example I decided I want Gain laundry detergent in my shopping cart but I only need to restock on laundry detergent every 4 weeks, I select the product I want then I’d click every 4 weeks for the frequency of the product. Continue to do that for all the products you want to purchase. Alice will then send you an email when it is time to restock on laundry detergent. Once you receive that email you just hop on their website and go to the checkout with whatever other products you may need and Alice will ship your groceries to your house for… wait for it…  F R E E! Did you get that? For F R E E! No stipulations. It doesn’t matter how many massive bags of toilet paper and paper towels you buy plus 12 boxes of cheese itz, its all free. They also send you free samples of other products to try with every order {I enjoy them!}

Now because I have my automated Alice account with all of my dry goods I only have to go to the store for fresh food. I never need to make a last minute trip because we ran out of the dreaded toilet paper! It saves so much TIME, which as you know for every Mama time is precious. And it will save on gas due to not as many unnecessary trips to the store.


Now you can save time AND prevent tantrum from being thrown in aisle 5b because you did the majority of your shopping online and your little ones no longer have to occupy themselves by tossing every bright colored or cool textured box into your shopping cart. Its amazing the random things we’ve bought without knowing and found out later in our grocery bags once we got home. Kelsey is one sneaky little girl.

Just think all in a days work!

If you notice on the right hand side of this page you will see ‘Blogroll’ and there is a link under it When you click on that link it will bring you right to where you can save $10 on your first order. Go ahead and check it out. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

Happy shopping 🙂


Meet the Fam… Part II

Filed under: Family,Friends — bethanyjcrocker @ 1:53 am
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Extended Family

After my first post introducing the family a few “extended family” members were a little crushed that they didn’t make the cut. We have some wonderful friends that play a big part in Josh and My life as well as our girls. Here are just a few!!

Dale {Uncle Roach} – Dale is best known for his phlegmatic ways and also being the hangout king. It is classic of uncle Roachie as kelsey calls him from time to time to just appear in the doorway as if everything was normal 🙂 He is a great friend that we have enjoyed getting to know over the last year.

Nathan {Uncle Bruce} – Bruce is kelsey’s numero uno! she loves herself some Bruce. I think what she may enjoy most is how Bruce and Josh toss Kelsey around like a little rag doll. She is a tuff puff and gets a kick out of things like that.

Amy {Aunt Mose} – Also known as Aaaaaaaaaaaaaamy! The girls chit chat most about their Aunt Mose and ask frequently where she is. When I return the question back with “I’m not sure Kels where do you think Aunt Mose is?” the usual response is: “she’s in the backseat.” or “Amy is in the potty.” hmmmm!? Kelsey also enjoys Aunt Mose’s collection of shoes and purses, she truly is a great aunt!

Dan {Uncle Danny or Boone} – Dan is such a goof without even trying, all the more reason the girls love him. Dan knows nothing about babies or toddlers making their interaction even more hilarious. He is just one of those uncles!

So now if and when these extended family members are ever mentioned in future posts you’ll have a little background on them.


Girlfriends needed! August 29, 2010

Filed under: Bradley Method,Friends — bethanyjcrocker @ 1:42 am
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I know its hard to find time to do anything as a mom

Some days its a joy to get a shower before 5pm. Other days its a joy to have social interaction with someone other than 2 year old or 8 month old. That’s why girlfriends are a must! Especially girlfriends with kids, kids the same age as your kids!

I have a wonderful group of girlfriends that I have only known for 2 years but because we are all at the same point in our lives {we all have 2 year olds} it is like we have known each other forever! Its great! we have so much to talk about every time we get together. Getting us together at a restaurant with out our children is dangerous. Either we won’t leave because we have so much to talk about or we are cackling at each others stories so loud everyone wants to shoot us! Mamas N E E D nights like that. For the sake of their families 🙂

My Top 3 Reason these friendships are needed:

  1. Play dates – Seriously who wants to send their 10 month old who is crawling well but not yet walking into a den of wolves {a group of 3 year olds} NOT ME!!  It is so important for children to have interaction with other children their own age.
  2. Babysitters – Because these friends have children the same age as yours they know what they are doing and its actually enjoyable for them to watch your kid for a few hours because its like canceling out their own kid {that sounds much worse than what I intend it to}. I guess what I mean to say is the kids play together so your entertainment isn’t needed.
  3. Advice -Either these friends have already gone through what you are experiencing or are just going through it now and has a bunch of research for you or you both have no idea what you’re doing so you can head up a creek without a paddle together 🙂

I am sure there are many more reasons why these friendships are needed but my mama brain has me stumped!

The really cool thing about this group of girlfriends

The very thing(s) that we are passionate about is what brought us together. Our children. We all met in our birthing class through The Bradley Method, so we call ourselves the “Bradley Girls”. 12 weeks of classes together and we hardly spoke to one another and as soon as our classes ended we somehow began an email chain that encouraged one another up to our individual deliveries. After that the play dates began and are still going as we continue to add to the numbers of the group. We have only been together for 2 years but a special bond has been made. We have supported each other through second and third time births {by now some of us are professional birthing photographers!}, major decisions on health issues for child. Everything down to the moral support in potty training.  The best part about it is our kids are becoming friends too. We are one big happy family 🙂

If you don’t have girlfriends like this, get some!

Join a playgroup at your local library, befriends some mamas at the playground or gym you go to. It really makes a world of difference for you and your kiddo.

September 2009 celebrating 1 year with our little munchkins!

Our little party boat bums living the life


Mama does know… August 27, 2010

Filed under: Family,Moms — bethanyjcrocker @ 10:20 pm
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Does this sound familiar?

At age 4: Mom knows everything!
At 8: Mom knows a lot!
At 12: Mom doesn’t really know everything.
At 14: Mom doesn’t know anything.
At 16:Mom doesn’t exist.
At 18: She’s old fashioned.
At 25: Maybe Mom does know about this!
At 35: Before we decide, let’s ask Mom.
At 45: I wonder what Mom thinks about this?
At 75: I wish I could ask …my Mom about this.

Although I personally haven’t made it past age 25

I am learning how much my Mom does know, and I am thankful for it! Now that I am raising my own children I understand a little more why my Mom {and Dad} did what they did or said what they said. Raising children is no task for the faint of heart. Especially if they are anything like my darling Kelsey. She is a sweetheart but a busy sweetheart and if her busyness is not well directed then we get trouble! I can only imagine what I put my parents through as a child, I know it must of been good too because I hear them chuckle from time to time as I am teaching Kelsey right from wrong even though what she did was pretty stinkin’ funny.

You never realize how much your Mom does know until you are going through a situation and all of the sudden you get flashbacks of your Moms voice “No Bethany you may not do… yada yada yada!” then I think to myself “CRAP! she was totally right!”. My appreciation for my mom grows as I get older and am put through situations that she was once tested with and it turns out my mom did know what she was doing and wasn’t as dumb and I thought she was! {So sorry Mama!}

I think seeing how much my mom misses her mom

who passed away almost 15 years ago adds a new perspective. I remember while growing up one of us {I am 1 of 3 kids} would achieve something great and the first thing my mom would want to do is tell her mom… but she wasn’t there to tell. Specifically there was a time shortly after my grandma died that my mom literally picked up the phone and paused and put it back down. I have tears in my eyes just thinking about it! I can’t imagine life with out my mom! I don’t want to imagine what it would be like. She has been {and still is} such an important part of my life and my daughters lives too. I am thankful I have passed any stage of thinking my mom isn’t the smartest and wanting nothing to do with her. The room is truly brighter when she walks in. Sorry age 75 but I hope I don’t know what that one feels like.

I hope this post sets your mind towards your Mama and how much she does know and loves you and that’s why she does the crazy things she does… because she’s your Mama! And don’t forget, us Mama’s have eyes in the back of our heads!!

My Mama & me getting ready for my wedding


What sparked my passion August 26, 2010

Filed under: Books,Bradley Method,Friends,Moms — bethanyjcrocker @ 8:57 pm
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January 25, 2008 the double line arrived!

Josh and I are expecting our first child. A task I wasn’t really looking forward to but knew it was inevitable {delivering a baby}. Because I really knew nothing about being pregnant or delivering a child and Josh wasn’t much help on the topic we decided to take a highly recommended birthing class. The Bradley Method.

Boy are we thankful that we took those classes!!

The education we received in that 12 week course was phenomenal. Those classes better prepared us for the entire experience of having a baby. We were confident in the decisions we were making because of the information we were getting. Josh was excited about the delivery and was extremely helpful post delivery because he knew what to expect. Not to mention it was great having a specific day every week for 12 weeks set aside to specifically talk about and prepare for our future with our new baby.

The entire experience of preparing for a baby and actually delivering a baby was so text-book perfect and enjoyable I wanted in some way to be able to share that with others so they could have the same positive experience I did. That is what sparked my birthing passion!

After our Bradley classes

I started taking my nutrition more seriously especially now that it didn’t only effect me. How could I insist on my kid eating a healthy pb&j with carrots and hummus while I eat a bag of skittles for lunch, not happening!! So I started researching information about everything… vaccinations, nutrition, alternative formulas, and toys.  I never thought twice about these things before because it didn’t really affect me.
Well when you are responsible for raising a little human that eventually grows into an adult and repeats the cycle you kind of want to make sure you do a good job. You need to make sure you are nurturing your child in every way {physically, mentally, and spiritually} so that’s what I did.

I was given a book by my Pastor called Growing Up God’s Way by John A. Stormer. Wow! What a great book. If reading this book does not light a fire under your butt I am not sure what will. Reading about the important influence a parent has on a child’s life and also how crucial the first 3 years of life are was enough to spark my passion in being the best mama possible to the children I am blessed with. Trust me I have my bad days as a mom in fact just the other day I was ready to set both kiddos on the front step with a FREE sign! But this too shall pass, I remind myself very often of that 🙂 I really don’t care if it is always the popular thing to do as long as it’s the right thing I will keep plugging away at raising my children the Godly way! This book is what sparked my passion and method of raising my children the way I do!

Leave a comment and tell me what are you passionate about and why!


Meet the Fam! August 24, 2010

Filed under: Family,Military,Moms,My mini me's — bethanyjcrocker @ 11:35 pm
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Josh (Papa or Dad) – a budding entrepreneur, and fellow blogger ( ) He is honestly the best father anyone could ask for! Our girls L O V E their Papa with all their hearts as they should, he is the most funny person I have ever met and they will ever meet in their life! Josh is also a Sergeant in the Army Reserves which causes him to travel multiple times throughout the year. Josh loves fitness and healthy living all while having a good time. Oh and he is super outdoorsy too. I am thankful to call him my best friend.

Kelsey (Jo Jo) – Kelsey is our oldest daughter that will be turning 2 the end of September. She continues to amaze both Josh and me daily. Currently she has a love for purses and shoes, this could be a very dangerous fetish in about 10 years. However she is a girl after my own heart! Kelsey is the perfect mix between a girly girl and a tomboy {her father is so thankful she is not a pansy}. If Kelsey had things her way she would be rolling around in a puddle with a pair of Mama’s high heels on. This spring my Mama bought Kelsey some flowers to plant at her house, she bought Kelsey impatience and she bought them for a reason! Kelsey knows what she wants and she wants it right now, a very strong willed little girl at her best.

Neely (Nee nee) – Little Neely is almost 8 months old. She has a growing personality that will only live up to true Crocker fashion, to be one of a kind! Her facial expressions are unbeatable. Like her big sister Neely is learning what she wants and when she wants it {NOW}. However Kelsey and Neely have the perfect relationship, Kelsey loves to entertain and Neely loves to be entertained. I am praying this relationship never changes and if so only for the better! Nee nee is working on her ability to crawl and stand firmly. Her latest milestone was saying “dadda” while pointing at Josh last night. I’m not sure who was more excited Josh or Neely?! Both our girls are famous for their lack of hair, if you had to choose little girls to be bald or SUPER blonde it would be them, they have the most perfectly shaped head {or so people at wegmans tell me all the time}.

Bethany (Mama) – I am the glue that holds this family together. Although Josh and I work as a team and a very good team for that matter there are just some things I must do, especially when Josh is gone on orders for the Army. All while keeping the house organized and clean I manage to have fun with everyone. Some days are definitely better than others but that is part of running a household. I love being with my family, they really are 3 of the funniest people I know with the best senses of humor. I am blessed!