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my first birth story September 29, 2010

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September 29, 2008

3 days after my expected due date

8am the cramping began – I had just sent Josh off to work and started getting ready for the day. I was planning on going shopping with my mother in law for my sister in laws wedding on Saturday (it was Monday). That wasn’t looking to promising.

9am my mother in law shows up at my door. I was not at all ready to go but continued to attempt to get ready for the day as my mother in law waited and chatted from the living room.

12 noon after going for about a mile long walk {stopping periodically for contractions} and walking a few errands to the bank and post office it was time for a large protein lunch. I ate some scrambles eggs with cottage cheese and a yogurt, I then decided it was best for me to lay down and get some rest as I was banking on needing that energy later in delivery!

3:15pm I made the call to Josh for him to come home! He had really been anticipating this call. Before I had called him my contractions were getting so strong that I no longer could stretch through them or talk while they were taking place, I had to be up and moving or swaying while I was toning {toning for those that don’t know is a deep relaxed noise that mothers in labor make sometimes not by choice but it helps them to breath through the contraction and release what pain you can}.

3:45pm Josh got home with much excitement and drew me a bath to help me relax and work through the contractions. Mind you my water hadn’t broken yet so it was fine for me to be submerged in water. I had Josh run out to get a heating pad and tennis ball from his parents house to help relieve some back labor I was having. Within seconds of Josh leaving my mom came over after picking up my nephew from the babysitters, she hadn’t heard from me all day and wanted to see how things were going. To her surprise I was in labor! When she got there I was laboring in the bath tub flopping back and forth like a dying fish trying to get comfortable between contractions. This must of been a hilarious sight. Josh returned home within a few minutes and took my nephew to the playground so he was not distracting from my laboring and my mom stayed to help me and time contractions.
This always cracks me up when I think about it but my mom sat next to me and asked “have you been timing your contractions?” my response was “yes,… well until I couldn’t focus and count at the same time so I stopped” “ok! well you let me know when they start and I’ll time them for you” my mom said. After a few contractions my mom looked at me with a little bit of fear in her eyes and said “uhhh I am going to drain the tub, I’m strongly suggesting you go to the hospital because your contractions are consistent between 2-3 minutes apart.” I just thought to myself “UUGH! I have to move?!” Between the contractions I finished packing for the hospital and called the doctor to give them a heads up of my arrival 🙂

6:00pm We arrived at the hospital. Josh dropped me off at the door so I could get a head start up to the maternity floor while he parked the car. As I staggered into the hospital I made my way up to the 3rd floor and headed to triage. The midwife came in to check how far along I was, at this point I had hit my final transition and was ready to go… the only thing my water hadn’t broken yet. Encouraging news though when the midwife checked me, I was 10cm dilated!!!! The women started cheering and scrambling around to get me into a room. When I got into the delivery room a random doctor came in shortly after. I had talked to this doctor before we left our house and I knew then that he did not believe me when I told him how quick my labor has been and sure enough he walked in the door and said “well Mama things sure have moved along for you! most 1st timers are in labor for at least 14-18 hours.” I wasn’t really into all his chit chat. Because I was 10 cm and my water still hadn’t broken yet we decided to have the doctor break it, after doing so he told me he’d be back in a half hour… LOL what a joke after 2 back to back contractions I gave my loud warning “I’m pushing!!” That feeling is unmistakable then EVERYONE came running. As the nurses got everything prepped and ready the doc comes strolling in talking about the freakin antique road show. My sister video tapped me pushing Kelsey out {it took a whopping 10 minutes} and on the video you see me look over at Josh as my eyes roll to the back of my head with annoyance. I believe I even mouthed to him “seriously the antique road show?!?”
I focused so hard, took such deep breathes and pushed with every ounce of energy and out came this perfect little human at 6:42pm

Oh the sigh of relief

the sheer exhaustion and temporary pain of delivering a child into the world was some how immediately gone due to the adrenaline rush and joy of this great accomplishment and blessing we have been given. The feeling is truly indescribable! No drugs, no IV’s it was perfect and the way God intended childbirth… naturally.

I can honestly say the labor and delivery of Kelsey was one of the most exciting days of my life! Josh and I are truly blessed to have her in our life and given the opportunity to raise such a wonderful little girl.

Happy Birthday 2nd Kelsey Grace

We hope you know how loved you are!


Top 5 favorites about infants September 9, 2010

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Neely is not such an infant any more, she’s almost 9 months!

Having gone through the infant stage twice

There are definitely things I love about it and others that are less than impressive.

Here’s my top 5 things I love about the infant stage

5. Infants need YOU to survive – You are their advocate to the world and they need your love and affection to live. They definitely need you when you’re breastfeeding and they’re only source of food!

4. Lack of verbal skills – There is no sass back with these little ones 🙂 Although Neely seems to jabber pretty well thanks to her big sista, thankfully the demands of what she wants aren’t there yet 🙂

3. NAPS – I love how much sleep is required for babies to grow! It is so helpful in the recovery process of having a baby.

2. All the firsts – Their first smile, giggle, holding a toy and sitting up. Its all brand new to them which brings me to my final favorite.

1. Simple things make them happy – Because everything in the world is brand spankin’ new to them, making it all so amazing! I love it when  people start to become familiar to them and they can interact. The smile that comes across Neely’s face when she sees Josh or me makes me so happy, its that indescribable feeling as a mom!

Infants can be a lot of work but they are always worth it, and that stage in their life is so crucial for bonding. The time you spend with them is always well worth it. Love on those little love bugs 🙂


Top 5 favorites about toddlers September 8, 2010

Filed under: Family,Friends,Moms,Uncategorized — bethanyjcrocker @ 3:08 pm

little miss independent on a tire swing & lovin’ it!

Toddlers are an education you never knew you needed!

Toddlers are hilarious and mind boggling all at the same time. Here are my top 5 things I love about toddlers. They are in no certain order.

5. A true concern for others – My darling Kelsey is genuinely concerned for her parents {and rightfully so}. Josh had stubbed his toe and Kelsey immediately asks “daddy are you ok?” when she sees me hustling and bustling to get stuff done “mama are alright?”. However when we answer her honestly and say “no, we are not ok” her response is usually “hmm, ok!” haha. She has even followed Josh’s dad to the bathroom and stood outside the door knocking on it saying “Pops! open the door, are you ok in there!” LOL

4. Developing an opinion… of EVERYTHING! – I am not sure where Kelsey gets this from?!

3. Imagination – Toddlers are so sweet and innocent and untainted by the world it is great to see how creative they can be.

2. Communication – Kelsey has a VERY good vocabulary for a 2 year old {I don’t know why Josh and I are semi quiet people 🙂 }. However it is so fascinating to see what sort of communication toddlers pick up, everything down to their facial expression when explaining what they want. They mimic how they are communicated with and sometimes it makes me think twice about what I am doing or saying! Recently I called Josh and asked him to do something, when doing so I called him “hunny”. Well not even 5 minutes later Kelsey comes strutting into the room Josh is in and says “Hunny, my baby is sweeepin, shhhh! be quiet”.

1. Ahhh! and the SASS of a toddler –  Sass with a smile as I like to say. This takes some serious discipline on the adults part to not laugh or smile when toddlers are doing something they know is wrong but it is so stinkin funny!
Kelsey always looks at us with a little sparkle in her eye and smirk on her face saying “ha ha! what are you going to do about that!” and then Josh usually turns around with his back to us convulsing because he is trying so hard not to smile or laugh at her because it only encourages her behavior more. And there I stand with my hands on my hips forced to be the fun sucker as I lay down the law! We really could have our own TV show 🙂

All in all there is a lot to be learned from toddlers and it is a joy to explore the world through their eyes!


Another great product! September 7, 2010

Filed under: Moms,shopping — bethanyjcrocker @ 4:17 pm
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Snack Taxi?!

I have never heard of this brilliant invention until recently when a friend brought them to my attention. I have not used them YET but trust the source as she is a full time nanny to three kiddos that are on the go. I’d like to introduce to you the SnackTaxi’s .

This is better than zip lock and better than glade wear. These reusable bags not only look great and come in a huge variety of colors and patterns but they are washing machine safe! So if you are like me and not blessed with a dish washer you can just plot them in your washer machine with your laundry {I know every mama has an endless amount of laundry}.

The Snack Taxi comes in a few different sizes for sandwiches and smaller snacks like crackers, grapes, raisins whatever you like {or your kids like}. I am so excited about how unique this product is. I can’t wait to try them out! Hope you guys enjoy.


Does this EVER get easier?! September 3, 2010

Filed under: Moms,My mini me's — bethanyjcrocker @ 5:43 pm
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Pregnant women don’t realize just how good they have it!

Pregnant women don’t have to change diapers. They don’t have to deal with a hungry screaming baby; carrying heavy gear in and out of stores {just that heavy belly!} the list could go on. I personally think that’s the easiest having a child will be. You always know where they are and who’s taking care of them. It’s great!

However they eventually come out and they become little people of their own. As they grown and develop so do their motor skills, vocabulary, ahh yes and we must not forget their will power! Oh the will of a toddler 🙂 To be very honest and transparent with you the last 2-3 days have been… brain rattling for me! Between a strong willed 23 month old and a teething 8 month old it can be very frustrating to say the least.

I can’t take it anymore!

As I was about to break down in tears while pulling my hair out and sweating profusely I thought to myself does this ever get easier? It has to right?! Eventually they won’t need me to change their diapers or accidents in their Elmo undies? They’ll get all their teeth someday and stop crying… okay screaming? How about this, will they ever pay attention when I call their name? Oh man so many questions. People survive raising kids don’t they?! On that particular day it wasn’t looking good for me.

As I announced to Josh that we were giving the girls up for adoption he kindly reminded me how blessed I am to be the one to raise these girls and go through all of this with them instead of shipping them off to some teenybopper at a daycare that doesn’t know what she’s doing {which I am positive some days it would be easier to do that!}. So I stopped in the middle of my pity party and took a few deep breaths then really thought about what I was so worked up over… oh my gosh its not that bad in the grand scheme of things. Everything would have been better if I had just fixed my attitude from the start. I think thats where the root of most issues are, your attitude.

Happy Wife, Happy Life

You know the saying a happy wife, happy life. Boy is that true! Everyone would of been much happier if I were able to keep a attitude positive and be the encouraging mama/wife I am suppose to be instead of letting minute things pester me. So what if Neely does lung exercises for a few minutes while I finish taking care of Kelsey everyone will survive! Instead I should use those times to teach my kids what patients looks like, and the proper response to a sticky situation. Things will get easier so I am told and when we look back it won’t ever seem as bad as it was while we were going through it. Yeah there are going to be times when one child is screaming and the other is tugging at my shirt trying to get my attention while a buzzer is going off. OH WELL! Its times like that that make us SUPER MOM 🙂 For now I might as well enjoy the chaos and do my best to bring everyone out alive and happy!


The modern lunchbox September 1, 2010

Filed under: Moms,shopping,Uncategorized — bethanyjcrocker @ 8:23 pm
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One of my goals for this blog is to stay on top of great products that are useful for us as moms and then share them with you.

Ever heard of The Goodbyn Lunchbox?

Here is one of the first kids products… The Goodbyn lunchbox . This lunchbox is great! Who doesn’t love monsters? What mom doesn’t love something you can just toss in the dishwasher? What a great reusable lunchbox that encourages creativity, I am a huge fan of that.

Their website is really well put together. They have a suggested 3 week meal plan for lunches complete with a grocery list and it also breaks down each compartment and what should go in it. Talk about not having to think about lunches! That’s perfect for us “Mom Brain” mamas.

This product was really well thought out and is great for everyone not just elementary students. Also makes for a perfect birthday gift, back to school, or Christmas gift. Check them out and choose from the variety of colors! I am getting one for my nephew that just started pre-school. I can’t wait he is going to love this.

Hope you all enjoy this as much as I do!