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I’m Back!! What have I been up to?! November 9, 2011

Hi! I’m Bethany, nice to meet you… again!

Yes, it has been a while {a long while} since I have posted a blog. The Crocker family has been busy to say the least. I believe my last blog was around February, well what have we been up to during my 8 month hiatus? Let me share with you.

First I will back up to December of 2010 when I was in a car accident for the first time ever. It was awful, our car was totaled 2 weeks before Christmas leaving us car less. Due to the accident I started seeing a chiropractor multiple times a week. To this day I am still dealing with repercussions of the accident as far as doctors visits, and insurance paper work. What an ugly mess.
A few days after my accident my mom was also in a sever accident causing her serious injury’s that eventually required major back surgery. This was the first winter that New York State snow has gotten the best of us.

In January my father in law who was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig’s Disease also known as ALS fell and was in the hospital with several sever injuries. Back and forth to the hospital we went for about 2 weeks. I am so thankful for wonderful friends and church family who helped us out during this.

In March my mom had her back surgery and was in the hospital for about a week. Back and forth to the hospital we went again. During this time we were super busy helping my family and Josh’s family in any way we could. 

After my Father-in-Law re cooperated as much as he could from his fall in January he decided we should go on family cruise… so we went, Crocker’s take the Bahamas 🙂 On the second day of our cruise my Father-in-Law fell again. This fall caused him to need immediate brain surgery upon us docking. Half of our family stayed with my Father-in-Law while the other half was ordered to stay on the ship and enjoy the rest of our trip. How are we suppose to do that? But we did manage as best as we could.
Upon our return to the NYC port as soon as our phone’s got service again I had multiple text messages, voice mails and email. My Nana who was 95 years old passed away the night before. Later on that week we attended her memorial service and celebrated her life. Again I can’t say enough how thankful we are for wonderful friends and church family. This all happened late March and early April. From this point on at least once sometimes twice a week Josh would stay over night with his dad while his mom worked the evening shift at the hospital. At the time this was hard because Josh was gone a lot between helping to take care of his dad, drilling for the Army and schooling for weeks/months at a time for the Army. We were apart quite a bit.

The month of June Josh spent serving in California with the Army while the girls and I traveled around visiting family and friends to keep ourselves busy. I also started my Etsy shop .

In August my Father-in-Law got very sick and was hospitalized for about 3 weeks, eventually moving from the hospital to a nursing home/ living center for better care for his needs. During this month I was also organizing a wedding with 2 other friends. We had organized and planned this wedding in less that 2 months… I know it was crazy! However we are just that good 🙂 Josh was also hired on to the Sales Team and the gym we have been working out at for the last 2 years. This was a huge change for us as he had been working from home for about a year and half. To be honest I think I am still adjusting to this change.

September was moving month! We moved into our new home, this was a great move for us. We have more room, more land and couldn’t be happier!

In October my Father-in-Law was given the prognosis of 1-2 more weeks to live. On October 22nd his pain and suffering was over and he was walking the streets of gold! We had an earthly loss but Heaven had quite the gain!! We are once again thankful for our friends and family that have helped us through not only this time but all the time through the past year. Our hearts are full of love and encouragement from them.
Josh was able to spend a lot of time in the woods the past few weeks hunting, thinking, and praying and God blessed us with Josh’s first deer! This was really exciting for Josh, something he has wanted to do for a while and has finally been able to.

Now we are in November and what better time to look back on the past 10 months and see how God has stretched and grown us. Most people would say “What a crappy year!” and several people have said that but we are reminded that God has never given us something we can’t handle. We really do serve a great God!

Here are some pictures throughout our adventures this year!

Hanging out with my father-in-law on a beautiful summer night!

Josh giving his girls the love wink

A hilarious family photo on the cruise while at sea

Josh and I while at sea {note the sunkissed faces!}

Josh and the girls enjoying the water slide on the ship

 Our new home 🙂

In September celebrating Kelsey’s 3 birthday!




November 23, 2010

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The holidays are upon us, I love planning all the fun holiday meals and get togethers with our families and friends. There are lots of fun crafts to do with the kids to help decorate the house as a family too. We as a family have much to be thankful for and not only because of this time of year, all year round we are blessed. Here is a little acrostic for THANKFUL and a few things that I am specifically thankful for! I hope you enjoy it. Share a few things you are thankful for!!

Traveling with my daughters and husband
A lot of lessons learn {good and bad}
New Friends
Kind hearts {those that put up with my shenanigans}
Ultimate gift {salvation}


Meet the Fam… Part II August 31, 2010

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Extended Family

After my first post introducing the family a few “extended family” members were a little crushed that they didn’t make the cut. We have some wonderful friends that play a big part in Josh and My life as well as our girls. Here are just a few!!

Dale {Uncle Roach} – Dale is best known for his phlegmatic ways and also being the hangout king. It is classic of uncle Roachie as kelsey calls him from time to time to just appear in the doorway as if everything was normal 🙂 He is a great friend that we have enjoyed getting to know over the last year.

Nathan {Uncle Bruce} – Bruce is kelsey’s numero uno! she loves herself some Bruce. I think what she may enjoy most is how Bruce and Josh toss Kelsey around like a little rag doll. She is a tuff puff and gets a kick out of things like that.

Amy {Aunt Mose} – Also known as Aaaaaaaaaaaaaamy! The girls chit chat most about their Aunt Mose and ask frequently where she is. When I return the question back with “I’m not sure Kels where do you think Aunt Mose is?” the usual response is: “she’s in the backseat.” or “Amy is in the potty.” hmmmm!? Kelsey also enjoys Aunt Mose’s collection of shoes and purses, she truly is a great aunt!

Dan {Uncle Danny or Boone} – Dan is such a goof without even trying, all the more reason the girls love him. Dan knows nothing about babies or toddlers making their interaction even more hilarious. He is just one of those uncles!

So now if and when these extended family members are ever mentioned in future posts you’ll have a little background on them.


Girlfriends needed! August 29, 2010

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I know its hard to find time to do anything as a mom

Some days its a joy to get a shower before 5pm. Other days its a joy to have social interaction with someone other than 2 year old or 8 month old. That’s why girlfriends are a must! Especially girlfriends with kids, kids the same age as your kids!

I have a wonderful group of girlfriends that I have only known for 2 years but because we are all at the same point in our lives {we all have 2 year olds} it is like we have known each other forever! Its great! we have so much to talk about every time we get together. Getting us together at a restaurant with out our children is dangerous. Either we won’t leave because we have so much to talk about or we are cackling at each others stories so loud everyone wants to shoot us! Mamas N E E D nights like that. For the sake of their families 🙂

My Top 3 Reason these friendships are needed:

  1. Play dates – Seriously who wants to send their 10 month old who is crawling well but not yet walking into a den of wolves {a group of 3 year olds} NOT ME!!  It is so important for children to have interaction with other children their own age.
  2. Babysitters – Because these friends have children the same age as yours they know what they are doing and its actually enjoyable for them to watch your kid for a few hours because its like canceling out their own kid {that sounds much worse than what I intend it to}. I guess what I mean to say is the kids play together so your entertainment isn’t needed.
  3. Advice -Either these friends have already gone through what you are experiencing or are just going through it now and has a bunch of research for you or you both have no idea what you’re doing so you can head up a creek without a paddle together 🙂

I am sure there are many more reasons why these friendships are needed but my mama brain has me stumped!

The really cool thing about this group of girlfriends

The very thing(s) that we are passionate about is what brought us together. Our children. We all met in our birthing class through The Bradley Method, so we call ourselves the “Bradley Girls”. 12 weeks of classes together and we hardly spoke to one another and as soon as our classes ended we somehow began an email chain that encouraged one another up to our individual deliveries. After that the play dates began and are still going as we continue to add to the numbers of the group. We have only been together for 2 years but a special bond has been made. We have supported each other through second and third time births {by now some of us are professional birthing photographers!}, major decisions on health issues for child. Everything down to the moral support in potty training.  The best part about it is our kids are becoming friends too. We are one big happy family 🙂

If you don’t have girlfriends like this, get some!

Join a playgroup at your local library, befriends some mamas at the playground or gym you go to. It really makes a world of difference for you and your kiddo.

September 2009 celebrating 1 year with our little munchkins!

Our little party boat bums living the life